Stay in the boat!

I am back… I was not inspired for a while till today…

The title is a sentence I repeated a lot the last months.

Stay in the boat! Don’t leave the boat! Wait!

I have more than 10 years of friendships with some people. It’s a long time… There is a beauty in it. You see people evolving and becoming. You are with them in the good times and the bad times. We are together in different seasons of our lives. It’s like doing life together, even if we are not in the same country.

Loving someone is being committed to someone. You are with them whether it’s convenient or not.

Let’s be clear I am not talking to being committed to abusive and toxic people, or people who harm you. I am talking about people that love and respect you. People who value you. People who don’t incite you to do something that you don’t want to do, or push you to be someone that you are not.

Let’s continue now that we are on the same page.

Nowadays, people stay with others for convenience, whether it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship.

They say for better or for worse, but there is a limit to their “worse”. They stay together as long as everything is going their way, or as long as they have something to gain in this relationship.

For better for worse is also for friendships. For better for worse is for love. When you love someone you stay with them for better or worse. In the good times, we laugh together, we enjoy ourselves, we play together, we celebrate together etc… In the bad times, we comfort each other, we call more (do you do calling? I don’t do that anymore unless it’s an emergency…), we prioritise this person to support them in a difficult situation. We don’t leave the boat.

Going through things together deepens the relationship. We become closer because of adversities. We become like brothers or sisters because of adversities. The bond is stronger. In this difficulty, we have to hold hands tight. We become more intimate because we share deeper things, and because we are vulnerable. We open up about things that touch our heart. We let someone in. The relationship becomes stronger because of adversities.

If you choose to leave the boat in bad times, you will never have the blessing that comes after the storm.

Having great relationships is more important that you think.

You cannot be happy when you are surrounded by the wrong people.

You cannot be happy when you feel alone despite being surrounded by people. You know many people, but you are intimate with none. Intimacy is knowing someone’s soul. You know them, who they truly are, and the knowledge of someone is revealed with time (their personality and true identity).

You cannot be happy if you cannot share deep things with at least one person.

Great relationships are built with time.

Everything is made beautiful in its time.

Great friends become family. You feel comfortable with them. You can be silly with them. They know you. “Oh, yes this is just Jessy!”

It’s priceless! It’s worth more than gold and rubies.

You can be so miserable when you do life by yourself…. you can be so cold because of the emptiness in your heart. Anyone can pretend to be happy and joyful in front of a crowd, but no one can lie to their own heart.

The emptiness of your heart kills you softly. Nothing that you do can make this feeling goes away. Men and women need love. We all need love, to love and be loved.

If you value someone, don’t leave the boat, stay with them.

Be there for them in the middle of the storm. They need you. They need your support while they are going through the unthinkable and the unimaginable.

The blessing after the storm will exceed what you can think or imagine.

Love grows beyond our own understanding.

Avec tout mon amour…