I just want to be by your side
I was born on the island of Martinique in the Caribbean. In Martinique, we listen to different types of music, like salsa (from Cuba, Puerto Rico, Colombia) and others latin musics like bachata and chacha cha. We also listen to Kompa from Haïti, Dancehall and Reggae from Jamaica, afrobeats from West Africa, Soca from Trinidad and Tobago, other musics from the US, and our traditional musics like Zouk, Biguine, Mazouka etc…
Based on my music taste, we won’t be able to guess where I am from, cause I listen to so many types of music. The beauty of being born on an island with so much diversity. Even, in our culture, we have the French culture because of colonisation, the Caribbean culture, and the culture from our ancestors. We are also between two languages, Creole and French.
This website is solely about love. I don’t think I share this before, I have another website in French for women of God. I am the founder of “La Femme Victorieuse”, in English “The Victorious Woman”. I have a website, Insta, Facebook, a podcast, and a Youtube channel under “La Femme Victorieuse”.
Right now, I am reading ‘His needs and Her needs’ written by Willard F. Harley. This book is so interesting and full of knowledge to help you have a successful mariage. Thankfully, the book is also written in French, so I recommended it to my community “the victorious”.
This led me to prepare a live on Insta, Facebook, and YouTube to talk about this topic with my followers: How can we meet the needs of our spouse ? You know, love is not enough. I write a lot about love here, but I know that a mariage requires work from both, the man and the woman. We can fantasise about having a romantic relationship and a beautiful mariage, but it won’t work if you don’t have knowledge and understanding of what it takes to have a successful mariage.
The “honeymoon” period lasts two years on average. What do you do after that ?
It’s beautiful to share your life with someone, but it requires work on both part.
A deep desire to overcome challenges together, understand each other, and do what you have to do to meet your spouse’s fundamental needs.
Also, marriage was designed by God, so you need God in the middle to help you face trials, tribulations, difficulties, and sufferings in your life. It’s not a matter of if, but when. We all face difficulties at some point in our lives.
Difficulties can take a toll on your mariage. You need God’s help to overcome difficulties and challenges with your spouse. God will help you have a stronger relationship with your spouse. You will love her/him more and more with time. God only can help you with that.
Ok, now let’s move on.
I really enjoy listening to latin musics. Right now I listen mostly to Pagote from Brazil.
Today, I was listening to one in particular while having lunch. The lyrics are so beautiful. Yes, it’s about love.
Here are an extract of the lyrics translated in English:
I still smell your perfume
By essence of passion
You are the reason for my jealousy
the longing that invades
increasing loneliness
I just want to live by your side
Feeling the same emotion
Loving you and being loved
proving sin
reborn of passion…
It’s a need to be with the person that you love the most.
It’s a need to wake up next to this person, and share your life with him/her.
It’s like losing yourself in the feeling of love.
One person can change your world.
You see the world differently by her/his side.
You love this person with all your heart, all your soul, and all your spirit.
It’s like living in a world in black and white, and suddenly you see all the colours.
It’s like opening your eyes for the first time.
What you see is beautiful.
It’s beyond what you could have thought and imagined.
He is or she is all you really wanted.
Is it for real? Are you dreaming?
She or he is the one.
The one you’ve been waited for all these years.
Now, you just want to be by her/his side all the time.
It’s like a drug.
You are passionate about this person.
You want to breathe the same air that she/he breathes.
Everything about this person makes you feel good.
These feelings are always very strong at the beginning, the first weeks, the first months, or the first years.
To maintain this love story after two years, you have to be intentional. It takes work to have a happy and fulfilled marriage.
Some people are addicted to these strong feelings, and once they evaporated they look for a new person to share this ecstasy.
No knowing that if you do what it takes loves does grow and become stronger with time.
This person will know you, the real you.
You will be united spiritually, emotionally, and physically.
With time you can experience oneness as it was intended by God.
The true blessing.
With love,
Jessy
