An unfailing love
“An unfailing love”, this is what stuck with me while I was reading my Bible this morning.
This what I want, an unfailing love.
An unfailing love requires loyalty, commitment, truth and honesty.
A love that won’t stop, that won’t break, and that won’t end.
As I told you in the precedent blog post, I am the founder of “La Femme Victorieuse”, in English “The Victorious Woman”. It’s an online media for women of God. “TVW” is for women who want to be victorious with God in all areas of their lives.
God is in the center of everything that I do. Most importantly, it’s in the center of all my relationships. God is the pillar. He is the foundation.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
Love never fails.
This love is the love from God. You can love other people like that when you are connected to God. He dwells in you, and you dwell in Him.
When I talk about love with my followers during our Tuesday live on Instagram, I always talk about the toxic love and abusive love. Some people don’t know how to love. They can love you and abuse you. They can love you and do you wrong.
The fact that they love doesn’t prevent them to do you wrong intentionally. It’s hard to comprehend. Love is good, how someone can do me wrong if they say they love me? Because they don’t know how to love like God. The purest and sincere love.
We all want the purest and sincere love. A love that will last forever. A love that never fails. A love that protects us.
We want to be surrounded by people who love us for who we truly are.
You can be yourself with them. You don’t have to hide or to pretend to be someone else in order to fit in.
You are not a people pleaser just to be loved and to feel accepted.
Love between siblings
My sister is 13 years younger than me. We are sisters, but I also act like a mother to her. Our relationship is very special. I helped my mother raising her, and I am her role model.
I left Martinique when she was young, but I always came back to the island to spend time with her. I was there for all important events in her life. I love her unconditionally. I just love her. She doesn’t have to do anything to deserve my love. I poured out everything I had in me in her, and I believe she is the person who knows me the best.
I want the best for her at all time. I will always be there for her.
The bond between us is strong.
Love between friends
You are not growing if you are not losing friends, this is so true. We evolved, we changed, and we lose friends. It’s just life.
A friends loves at all times (Proverbes 17 : 17).
It’s difficult to have loyal and truthful friends. People can laugh with you and deceive you. Everyone has a motive. You don’t know what it’s in their heart. What are their real intentions? Wicked people are very patient.
God surrounded me with the right people. I trusted Him with all my friendships. He removed people in my life, and placed the right ones.
Having loyal and truthful friends is priceless. It’s a blessing. They know me. The real me. Not what people perceive when they see me.
I can be myself with them. I can express all of me when I am with them.
Friendship does evolve with time. It’s like wine. It gets better with time.
Having the right people around you brings you joy and happiness.
We speak the same language. They understand my silence. We have a common history.
I feel seen, heard, and understood.
I am not alone.
Believe me, you can be surrounded by many people and you feel alone. It’s the worst feeling ever. You know when people talk to you like they know you, but they don’t know a thing about you. They only know the surface. It’s painful. Yes, I’ve been there long time ago.
I feel blessed with friendships.
Sometimes, I wonder if I feel that way, because I did not have this type of friendship when I was younger. I remember trying to explain myself to people who did not speak the language of my heart. We were using words that we both understand, but they could not relate to me and understand me. It was painful.
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”
Love requires to be patient with others.
Patience to let them grow. Patience to let them be. Patience to understand that they are not available for you, because they are going through difficult times. Patience to respect their need to be alone. Patience to let them come to you when they are ready to share their feelings. Give them time to reflect, and see things differently. Patience with their failings, because no one is perfect.
No one lives in a bubble. You cannot be happy every day.
Things can affect you, and you won’t be the best version of yourself every day.
Patience involves acceptance and compassion.
I make every effort to keep the unity by letting them be.
In each relationship that I have, I cultivate peace.
We are humans. We cannot be perfect every day.
This is a form of acceptance in friendship. Accept the person for who they are. Accept the person for who they are in a season of their life.
Life changes.
For example, your friend used to spend a lot time with you, but know she is starting her own company. She has less time for you. She loves you, but in this season of her life, she has to focus on building the foundation of her company. Less time for you, and more time for the business. She does her best to meet you when she can.
All my friendships have evolved with time. The dynamic of the relationship in the beginning is not the same, because we are not the same people. We don’t have the same needs now than 5 or 10 years ago. The beauty of long relationships.
Let your friends be.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
When I started working on “The Victorious Woman”, I did not know what God was doing in my life. I was just obedient. I was following His leading. Whatever you want God, I will do.
By being obedient, I was blessed with new friendships.
Some followers of “The Victorious Woman” became my friends.
At the beginning of this week, I was telling one of them that I trust her. I trust her because she is at the feet of God. I trust her because the Holy Spirit lives in her. I trust her because she desires to do good, and not evil. I added that even if she fails short one day, I know her heart. She has good intentions towards me. She wants to do good.
Our relationship is at the feet of God.
It’s strange. I don’t know her for that long. I don’t know her past. We’ve never met in person, but we collaborated on different projects together involving our respective ministries. She organised events for women of God in Martinique. Yes, she is from Martinique like me. We went live twice on Insta, and she was a guest on “The Victorious Woman” podcast. We talk regularly.
No one is perfect, and we can wrong people unintentionally. I know that. The most important thing to me is your heart. What is in your heart? Good or evil?
People that we love will hurt us.
We need to forgive quickly.
“Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good ; his love endures forever.”
An enduring love.
You love this person despite any flaws or problems.
You love this person in the good and the bad times.
Let me remind you that abusive and toxic relationships are not the will of God. I always say that when I talk about love, enduring love, and love through bad times. A lot of people think they can accept anything because of love. Sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, and financial abuse are against God’s will for us. Let’s be clear on that.
When you know someone’s heart, it’s easy to forgive.
So, I forgive quickly.
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”
After being hurt in a long term relationship, I said to myself I am done with sacrifices. I AM DONE!
New rule in this house: we do compromises but not sacrifices.
Years later, God opened my eyes and showed me how I sacrificed for my friends. I did not realise that I was doing it. I was making sacrifices for my friends. I gave up things to help them or to be there for them.
Love is sacrificial.
You will give up things for the sake of the people you love. Parents do that for their children. Married people as well.
When you do it, you don’t always realise that you are doing it, because you do it from your heart.
Love between husband and wife
“ That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
One emotionally.
One physically.
One spiritually.
You belong to me and I belong to you.
I like reading Proverbs 31 in the Bible about the wife of noble character. It is written in Proverbs 31 : 11-12 (NIV) : “She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”
Her husband has full confidence in her. She is loyal, trustworthy, and sincere. He can trust her. He can rely on her.
The enemy is not in his house.
She is worth far more than rubies.
Any good relationship is worth far more than rubies to me. Life is hard. We need companionship. We need people to do life together. Great relationships bring joy and happiness in this fallen world.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. It’s the position of her heart. It does not mean she won’t hurt him, it means in her heart she wants the best for her husband. She wants to be good to him. Again, no one is perfect.
Sincere and pure love does not want to harm others.
You want to be good to the person you love the most.
You want to love them in words and in action (1 John 3 : 18). So many people just talk, talk, and talk again. When you observe what they do, it’s not love. They just love you with their mouth. We need actions. How do you love me?
In Kingdom marriages, we are one flesh, I belong to you and you belong to me. Not in an abusive or a possessive way, but in a protective way.
You want exclusivity.
You want love, loyalty, commitment, truth and honesty. There is safety in that. There is peace. There is stability.
No matter what, this person will be there for you, for better and for worse.
You are side by side, no matter what.
Two are better than one.
It is written in Ecclesiastes 4 : 9-11 (NIV) : “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labour: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?”
You have each other’s backs (John 15 : 13).
You are a team.
You conquer the world together. You face challenges together. You overcome difficulties together.
The best part: you celebrate your victories together.
It’s priceless to be with the right one.
A blessing from God.
“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord”
A good wife is a favour from the Lord. She is her husband’s crown (Proverbs 12:4).
For women: May God lead your husband towards you.
For men: May God show you who is your wife.
Avec beaucoup d’amour…
