Singleness is not a disease and marriage is not the cure.

I’ve been single since 2015. It’s been a long time.

I was in a relationship for 8 years. It took me two years to heal.

A few months after breaking up, I decided to go to Martinique to be surrounded by my family and friends. Winter was coming, and I was not strong enough to face this depressing weather by myself.

I took a flight back home and I stayed in Martinique for 9 months.

It took me two years to heal completely.

The first year I cried a lot. It was hell. I said to myself never again I will go through this kind of pain. I was traumatised by it.

You just cry for nothing at any time anywhere.

A thought makes you cry.

A place makes you cry.

A song makes you cry.

My birthday I was crying, cause it was the first time I was without him.

I remember being in Martinique in front the beach crying.

What a poor thing!

I felt I was mourning someone that was still alive.

I had to fight with myself to be strong every day and keep moving forward.

I had to be intentional with my thoughts, trying not to think about what I had.

I felt empty.

A part of me was missing.

I felt alone.

I felt vulnerable.

I felt lost and broken.

The pain was so deep that I said to myself never again.

Nope! Never!

I was so traumatised that I said to God that I am gonna wait on you now.

I've done it my way and it was painful.

I will wait on the man you have for me.

I learned my lesson.

End of 2016, I went back to London, I found a place to stay and started working.

Little by little I was feeling much better.

In 2017, I travelled. I went to Bali for my birthday, a couple of months later I went to Morocco with my friend, and later that year a few months to Martinique.

It was like a renaissance.

Be born again.

This tragedy allowed me to ask myself the right questions. Who I am? What are my values ? What do I really want? I had 9 months to think about it while I was in Martinique. When I came back to London I had a sense of identity.

I was more in tune with myself doing things that I like. Exploring the world by myself or with friends.

I felt free again.

A new chapter.

I was a better version of myself.

I found peace being single.

Peace and freedom.

Peace with God.

Peace with who I am.

Peace with my past.

Peace with who I was becoming.

Since, I nurture this peace. I like peace.

Freedom to embrace fully who I am.

Freedom to become.

Freedom to try, to explore, to be, and not to be.

Freedom to be still.

Freedom to say no.

Freedom to close the door.

Freedom to let the door close.

I protect my peace.

My life changed when I was found myself free again.

Sometimes, a tragedy pushes you towards the right direction.

It was a lost at first.

Then, it was a blessing.

A blessing in many ways.

Do I want to get married?

Yes.

With the right person.

Approved by God.

I don’t want to invest in a relationship that won’t lead my anywhere.

I don’t want to sacrifice myself for the wrong person. It won’t produce good fruits in the long term.

Let my next relationship be the last.

The last.

The forever.

People asked me why are you still single? I said God will lead the right man to me at the right time.

I have faith that moves mountain.

God knows what is best for me.

Being single allowed me to deepen other relationships. Divine relationships.

I feel blessed.

Being single allowed me to focus on my calling.

I feel blessed.

I had time to focus, to put things in place, and to build “La Femme Victorieuse”.

I spent hours on this.

I had time to learn other languages like Brazilian Portuguese.

I feel blessed.

My life is not perfect, but I feel blessed.

I wake up feeling peaceful.

There is a time for everything. A time to be single, and a time to be married.

Just make the most out of it.

Singleness gives you time to know yourself in a deeper level.

Knowing yourself allows you to make the right decisions. You know what is for you, and what is not for you.

You respect yourself more, and you know your boundaries.

It’s easy to be lost in this world with all the distractions.

You lose yourself in the doing.

You lose yourself surrounded by the wrong people.

You lose yourself saying yes, when you want to say no.

You lose yourself to please others.

You lose yourself pretending every day…

Singleness can be a blessing.

There is a time and a season for everything.

Embrace your singleness.

Avec beaucoup d’amour…